This week we’re talking through Sections 5 through 7 of the book. This is where motherhood entered my story. With motherhood came the world of mommy comparisons. You know those moments, some short and some that last weeks at a time, when we ask why? Why can’t my house, my thighs, my children, my LIFE be more like hers? (Fill in with any person, real or celebrity, that causes you to compare.)
Motherhood and comparisons don’t have to go together, but they often do. Why? I think it’s because we want to know if we’re doing motherhood RIGHT. And since there’s no mothering handbook, we look at what others are doing and wonder should I be doing it like she is? Sometimes we get good ideas from other moms when we do this. Sometimes we gain simple appreciation for others’ different approaches. And sometimes we start thinking, I WANT what she has. Why can’t I have what she has? We move from learning to envy and that’s just not healthy or fun.
I wish I could say I’m done comparing myself to other moms. I do think I’ve improved, and I’m just plain busier so I don’t have as much time to fixate on things. But here’s how comparisons are continuing to appear in my life this summer and how I’m fighting the trap.
What do you do when you find yourself falling into the comparison trap?