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Five Date Challenge? Challenge Accepted.

by Mandy

reality

November 24, 2013

Five Date Challenge? Challenge Accepted.

Last Saturday night the stars aligned in our universe. The children who live in our house, the womb-mates as we affectionately refer to them, were each invited to various sleepovers. Three kids. Three sleepovers. ON THE SAME NIGHT.

Miraculous.

Time for a Date Night. We went to a fancy-schmancy romantic restaurant that Joe found, played truth or dare in said fancy-schmancy restaurant, spent more money on dinner than we should have and breathed and talked and held hands as we left. It was perfect.

The importance of dating is obvious, but truthfully it is sometimes lost on me. I like hanging with my kids, it’s pricey to book a babysitter and sometimes it feels like a lot of effort to get out of the house. In other words I am really lame occasionally. Can I add one more excuse to the mix? We just moved (9 months ago) and have had the hardest time finding a babysitter we trust. Whew, that is a lot of excuses. I told you, lame.

But Saturday we had no excuses. So we dated. And what it helped me to remember is that experiencing life without kids from time to time is essential. It is a reminder that we're more than just the parents which is easy to forget, especially when you have three children to feed clothe and keep alive. I was also reminded how much fun we have together as a couple. And for us, it's the best therapy money can buy.

Saturday night made me want to grow old with Joe. Not because we have children together or because we signed a silly piece of paper with some official sounding wording on it, but because I enjoy him. He makes me laugh and soothes my nerves when I freak out about situations I have no control over. He knows me better than anyone in the whole world and is willing to play truth or dare with me in a crowded restaurant. Regardless of the stress in our lives, spending time with Joe, just Joe, reminds me that I willingly choose him. Again and again and again.

It’s the “I love you” that matters. Even though we tell each other daily, before going to bed with a child or dog laying between us, in the morning as he’s heading out the door for work and on the weekends when we're loading the refrigerator with smashed blueberries from the grocery store (Sweetie? Next time don't put the milk in with the berries/ Whoops, sorry/ It's okay. I still love you/ I love you, too.) it means something different when it is just him and me. And it is good to remember that him and me still works. That this thing we started 15 years ago when he called me out of the blue with the cheesiest pick up line you have ever heard, has turned into something deeper than I could have hoped for. And just for the record, he still uses cheesy pick up lines on me to ensure a date night after party. And they still work.

P.S. The Five Date Challenge. I’ll tell you about it real quick. It’s a great way to sauce things up with hubby. Go to MOPS.org/mobile for all the details. (Can you say chance to win an all-expense paid trip to a dreamy location?) Play the Truth or Dare game in the app. It is hilarious (can you say naked cartwheel?) and will make for great conversation. Also, no matter how creative you are it is hard to come up creative date ideas on a regular basis- the Date Plan-o-matic has lots of fun ideas if you aren’t feeling very inspired. Ok, that’s it friends. God speed and truth or dare.

 

 

Related topics: Relationships, Mandy, Intimacy, Dating

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My husband and I find it really difficult to find a babysitter.. Even family members. Our oldest son has a mild case of autism and we find people find it to be too difficult to handle at times..I always hoped we would find a friend or family member that we could trust fully the way people trust me.. I've always been the babysitter.. Hardly ever do I receive the blessing of a babysitter.. I try to see the positive in every situation and know that god will never give you more than you can handle.. So we are creative and have date nights at home.. Sometimes we will cook dinner after the boys are in bed.. Or sit out by a campfire alone while the boys sleep. We also enjoy snuggling up for a movie and make it just like the theater (popcorn, candy, dim lights) I truly believe I am blessed with a husband who can be content with DIY dates if you will! I would love to surprise him with an overnight someday! Maybe before baby boy #3 makes his appearance in March 2014! :)

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Any time away is nice but my favorite dates have been a day trip (or the occasional weekend away) where we are able to leisurely explore an area followed by a nice dinner. For now, since we just had our second baby this year, a nice relaxed dinner without worrying about how much we're paying a babysitter would be lovely!!

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A night away!

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A nice, quiet dinner with my husband would be perfect.

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We used to go to concerts. I miss that so much. Music is a big thing we have in common so we would love to go see our favorite bands play. I want to do that again!

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A date night would be wonderful, especially since we live over six hours from family and I've finally made some mommy friends that are so wonderful and I would definitely trust to watch my sweet boy. :)

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Haven't had one in a long time, but I'd love an overnight date with good quality time and good food!

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One or 2 date nights in 4 years! Yikes! We need to work on that!

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A true date night! What is that? Seems like forever ago. We always end up with one kid somehow.

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I really had high hopes for the Five Date Challenge--and then the craziness of Nov/Dec hit! I would love, love, love to sneak away for a night to San Antonio to see the RiverWalk at Christmas.

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Just because the "challenge" ends at the end of December doesn't mean you can't create your own five-date {or more} challenge. You can use the Date Plan-o-matic anytime to plan dates :)

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Yay for date night!

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I would love to have an overnight date somewhere near the water.

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Id like to just enjoy a nice relaxing date, with a picnic and a drive up to see Mt.St.Helens. and enjoy each others company. Since we both have opposite schedules we dont have time for just ourselves since we only have three days that we are all together as a family.

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I want to oh back to the cabin in Alaska

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Coffee, mini golf, pedicures, and pizza! It's hard to stay focused on the reason your whole family exists in the midst of the spaghetti mess. Date nights are a necessity!

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Seafood lover seeking date night with my handsome hubby of 13 years. 3 kids and lots on the todo list doesn't leave much time for romantic nights out. My ideal date night would be eating fresh seafood, in the nice restaurant listening to music in the background. Going on a horse drawn carriage ride... Just the 2 of us.

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We love our monthly date nights! I'd like to have time for a good old fashioned dinner and a movie date, but that's a lot of babysitter time...

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We love date night! We don't do them as often as we should, usually once a month. I would love to do a weekend getaway and share our dreams for our future. We haven't done that in a long time since before kids and our dreams have changed since we have changed over the years.

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Is there a way to do the Gloo app without having an iPhone/iPad? I have a Kindle Fire...

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It's currently only available for iPhone or Android phones. They are working on some additional platforms but unfortunately, they won't be released until 2014 so be sure to check back. Until then, check out www.thedatingdivas.com -- they have some great date ideas for husbands/wives.

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We like good food and would love to go to a nice restaurant without feeding four kids too. :)

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We recently heard about a place that serves hot-out-of-the-oven cookies. I'd love to go there for a yummy treat, and then have a movie night at home! Wait... can I add a side-by-side massage? The ones you see in the magazine ads of romantic beach getaways. Sign us up for one of those! (And don't forget the cookies).

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I'd love dinner without the kids! Some kind of dancing lessons would be fun, but I've never convinced my hubby to go for that.

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My hubby and I like to go hiking for our dates. We get to walk hand in hand, enjoy uninterrupted conversations, stop to make out from time to time, and get refreshed by being outside.

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Love date nights!

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Date night has always been a priority in our marriage. It is so important in keeping the romance and intimacy fresh. After 18 years I still get giddy about date night.

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We've had a few dates since baby number 4 came in July, but I'd love to go on an overnight...even though we'd have to bring the baby.

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Date night... What's that? :)

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I haven't been on a date with my hubs in months. It would be great to have an uninterrupted conversation with him over a dinner that I didn't have to cook.

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I haven't been on a date with my hubs in months. It would be great to have an uninterrupted conversation with him over a dinner that I didn't have to cook.

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I would love to have dinner just the two of us.

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I'd love to just hang out at our house by ourselves!

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It's been so long since my hubby and I have had a date night I have forgotten what it's like! It may not sound like anything spectacular but I would love to go out for dinner and a movie. Just spending time together without work, school or kids on our minds. :)

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My husband and I used to go to Barnes & Noble frequently to sit, relax, enjoy conversation and look at magazines together. I would love to be able to go to a nice dinner and then to the bookstore and enjoy time together!

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My hubs and I would love to try the local pottery studio! Maybe dessert and a movie, too... With 100 buckeroos- we could go on quite a few dates! : )

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My hubby and I try to do more creative dates than dinner dates to keep life more interesting, plus I like planning fun things for ME without kids every once in a while. So, I think going kayaking or hiking would be a fun date! It not only includes fun conversation, but exercise too!

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A nice steak dinner like we used to enjoy.

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I'd like to go out for a long, fancy dinner and then just walk around downtown and maybe get some ice cream.

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I'd like to go to a nice dinner (all dressed up!).

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We have a local massage school that we went to for our last anniversary. We had a 1hr couples massage for $75. It was the best $75 we spent in a long time! That extra $25 could go towards dinner. That's my kind of TLC!

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I love just getting dressed up and going out for supper, not a long planned out date. Just a good restaurant and the best company -- my husband. There are a couple of nice restaurants near us that we haven't tried. The kind where you order several courses and a bottle of wine, and let supper stretch into a couple hours. Now if I asked my husband, he'd say dinner at a more casual place and a movie. He misses going to movies together just the two of us.

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I would love to relive our first date night again.

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I would love to go on a dinner/movie date

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I would love to go to a musical! We used to love them before kids

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I would love to go see Catching Fire, oh wait I get to tomorrow as part of our Five Date Challenge. Yay!

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Anywhere ALONE for just a couple hours! We live far away from home and that makes it so much harder to have time to ourselves.

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With 5 kids from 4-10yo it can get tricky to have a date night. But each month we commit to making it happen and it's been one of the best things we've ever done for our marriage! While on the date we don't talk about the kids very much...but we really had to work at it in the beginning. ;) Instead, we talk about ourselves as individuals and a couple. Sometimes it even includes going over details of the upcoming week or the next trip to see family. No matter where we go or what we talk about it's always nice to have time to reconnect while we're still wide awake and not semi-comatose. :) Anything, anywhere with my best-friend hubby is right up my alley!

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I would love to spend the day hiking with my hubby, then finishing it of with dinner at a nice restaurant and maybe a show of some kind.

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Dinner out and a hotel room so we can reconnect without interruptions! It's been 9 years since we have been out alone!

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Overnight date. No kids & all out! Dinner, spa, movie, maybe shopping, breakfast in bed, etc.

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I would love to go to a Broadway touring show. We have been before, but only once since having kids and it was a few years back. It is nice to dress up and go out together for a night out. :)

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I would love to go rock climbing or mountain biking with my husband and then go to an awesome restaurant and take a long time to eat and enjoy the food and converstation with my best friend instead of chasing babies around and listening to talk about minecraft.

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Dinner & a concert sounds delish to me. We haven't had a date in 10 months...before our son was born. We also have a 5 yr old and almost 3 yr old. Thank you for the great giveaway!

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I would love for us both to go back to the Dominican republic to the same hotel where we got married 10 years ago. Even if it's just for a weekend. We could re-connect where we first connected, now that would be AMAZING!

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Wow! I'm thinking dinner and a movie - in the theater, not a free redbox!

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I would love to go on an overnight date with my husband. We never take the time to date and we need to. I guess we're full of excuses too!

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I'd like to go on a weekend road-trip, camping and exploring the Canadian wilderness.

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I would love to go on a stay-cation date at a local hotel or somewhere within a 2 hour radius of our house.

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My husband has been deployed for a year but will be home soon. We've been married for 15yrs and have 5 kids, 2 of them have special needs, dates are essential!!! You don't have to leave the house to spend alone time together. Never stop wooing your spouse. :) Any date would be awesome but a quite night out with a dinner and movie would be perfect right now.

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I'd like to do dinner and the gun range or dinner and a movie with my babe. Date nights are rare between kids, budget, and my husbands work schedule.

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We are new to a small town, haven't lived here long and we are away from family so we don't have a sitter yet... but we do put the kids to bed early and cook together and either watch a movie (sitting together) or play games for our date nights... One of our favorite dates is to go to a book store and read together! So fun... So romantic

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Our 7 month old daughter refuses to take a bottle--she loves to nurse. This makes it hard for us to get out often (we have a 2 year old as well). Thankfully she eats baby food now and my in-laws will take the kids any chance they get. So we usually get a date night once a month :) It's so refreshing to be alone. To talk to each other without interuptions and to just enjoy each other's company.

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Going out for sushi would be amazing. It has been way too long!

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My hubby just got back from a 5 month deployment and we haven't been alone on a date yet...Yikes! Dessert and Coffee and a quiet walk on the beach at sunset sounds good to me!

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Going to dinner and a show in downtown Atlanta would be tons of fun for us!!

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Walking in the park, sitting somewhere eating ice cream, reading books side by side, just having time to talk, and yet time to just soak up each other's presence, talking or not.

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Hubby and I were talking the other day about all of the geeky movies that are out or coming out really soon. We were joking about how cool it would be to leave the kids somewhere, get lunch, watch two movies, eat dinner, and watch another movie or two before going home. But with a 4month old nurseling, that's not likely.

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Out for prime rib without a baby nursing or a three year old demanding cake instead of the dinner she ordered!

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sounds fun!

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My husband and I have had 3 kids in 5 1/2 years. While I wouldn't take it back for the world, kids do take their toll on a marriage. I'd love to go to dinner and a show at a comedy club or something like that. It would be wonderful to be able to reconnect for one night.

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A night in a big city.. Maybe New York? Skating, walking in the snow? Nice dinner!

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My husband often works late so he usually gets home when I'm putting the kids to bed. We're both exhausted and barely have time to chat before going to bed. I don't remember our last date night. Our perfect date night would be going out for dinner and then going to hear some live music while our kids are staying at grandma and grandpa's house for the night so we didn't have to rush home.

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Can't wait for our nostalgic date, movie and dinner at Arby's. It was our very first date over 20 years ago.

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It would be great to try a new restaurant, then a show like Blue Man Group.

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Would love to be able to travel to a city about an hour away and take advantage of their restaurants, museums, plays, etc. Because it's farther away, we just can't swing the increased babysitter costs.

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I think I am in the same boat as many other moms. I have the pleasure of staying at home, but so often, when my husband comes home it's dinner, kids to bed, and then we are too tired to do anything. Obviously, there are exceptions, but I honestly don't recall our last "date". Usually, the fanciest we get is taking three hours to watch an hour and a half netflix movie (due to the CONSTANT pausing to tend to the kids).

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My husband loves live theater. It would be awesome to treat him to dinner theater one night...something he hasn't had the chance to do since before we got married.

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We buy season tickets to our university's theater department. It's wonderful because we end up with 8 pre-paid, pre-scheduled dates over the year. When they're already on the calendar it's easier for me to remember to find a sitter.

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We love going on hikes and canoeing in good weather When it's not nice out dinner and a movie is always fun

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My husband and I are taking a huge, faith-stretching, life-changing, somewhat terrifying leap at the end of December. Some time alone for fun and stress relief sounds amazing!

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I would love to have a date night going out to dinner and ice skating and then sitting next to a fire.

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We're military, so we move often. My husband and I love to explore whatever area we are currently living in. So far, we haven't been able to explore the area we call home (for now!). I would love to take a day where we can walk around the city, checking out shops, eating in local restaurants, and maybe even catch some dueling pianos :)

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It's been to long since we had a date. We will be celebrating our 10 yr anniversary next month. Would love to spend an evening with my love.

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Go on a Hike up to the Hollywood sign, have a picnic lunch, go home shower, get ready for a night out maybe o the Hollywood Bowl and watch a live concert on the lawn.

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I would love to go eat with my love and best friend at our favorite local place, The Nautical Whimsey. Then, we could go take a walk in Fairpark under the Christmas lights andante catch a movie. I just love spending time with my love :)

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I would love dinner and a movie with my sweet husband

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Would love to do an overnight at our favorite beach! I think we've been away overnight twice in the 4 years since having kids.

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I would love to go listen to live music and just relax with my husband! I would love it even more if we could go up to the city to do it and stay over night. :)

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I would love to eat somewhere really nice. We eat way to many hotdogs and ramen around here. Splurging on eating out for us is usually like...sandwiches or burgers!!

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I would love to have an overnight date with couple massages and relax.

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A hike, followed by lunch, dessert and a nap would be a wonderful date with my hubby.

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I would love to be able to go out to dinner, ice skating, and then a movie!! We live in an area where we are just starting to make friends, but dont get out much without our son. I have never ice skated before and would love to give it a shot this year while on a date with my husband! Its been so long since we had a date!

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