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The Important Thing About Yelling

by Rachel Macy Stafford

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January 4, 2014

The Important Thing About Yelling

"My older daughter had gotten out a stool and was reaching for something in the pantry when she accidentally dumped an entire bag of rice on the floor. As a million tiny grains pelleted the floor like rain, my child's eyes welled up with tears. And that's when I saw it -- the fear in her eyes as she braced herself for her mother's tirade."

Sometimes we read a blog by someone else and say, "wow, she gets it." This is one of those times. Rachel Macy Stafford of the Hands Free Mama talks about chosing compassion instead of anger. Well, really, she talks about her struggle to respond with compassion instead of anger. 

Here's the link for you to read ther rest: The Important Thing About Yelling


What was the last thing you responded to with anger that you wish you could take back? What was the last thing you responded to with anger that you wish you could take back? 

What happened the last time you responded anger? 

Related topics: jackie, fear, anger

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Oh how I relate to this! I am getting better but it is so difficult. Knowing other mothers struggle like I have/do makes me feel less alone, less stressed, and like I too can stop lashing out at my kids.

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Me too! Oh how I relate! And I am one of those who often overloads herself and then resents how I sometimes act. May God give us each grace to do better as we face each difficulty.

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anger never seems to make the situation better. My five year old is struggling with his temper right now - and if I get mad and yell, he yells right back. I can hardly discipline him for it - since I'm the one who did it first. A calm, quiet, compassionate voice works best - and yet sometimes it's so hard. I've made the situation much worse by getting mad!

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I think that's what hurts most...when you see the reflection of yourself in your own kiddos. That's when I know they've learned that behavior from ME! I'm trying to find the balance to let my kids know it's OK to get angry, but we need to control how we show it.

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