Link to Hello Darling on your blog!

<a href="http://www.mops.org/mom" title="Hello, Darling"><img src="http://www.mops.org/images/blog-share.jpg" alt="MOPS International blog" /></a>

Thanks for subscribing!

Get ready for a weekly digest of great stuff from our site!

Don't worry, if you get tired of us you can unsubscribe any time from your email preferences.

Whoops, we couldn't subscribe you

We have to know your email to subscribe you, so check that you're logged in or enter it in the box below.

If you don't have account yet, it is super easy to make one!

Whoops, we didn't quite catch that.

We don't allow anonymous comments, so check that you're logged in.

If you don't have account yet, it is super easy to make one!

self

What If Our Sex Life is in a Rut

Experiencing a rut or two in your sex life is normal. Addressing your rut in the bedroom could be as simple as wearing something that makes you feel beautiful, breaking up the routine, or trying something new. read more

self

One and Done

I particularly like this style because you can change sizes and still make the maxi work for you! read more

self

10 Rut Crushing Adventures For You and Your Friends

Are you in a mommy rut? Do you need a little excitement in your life (other than the chaos created by your two-year-old)? I know the feeling. I like play dates as much as any mom, but it’s time for some rut-crushing adventures, girls, and I have some ideas for you. read more

self

How Often Are Healthy Couples Having Sex?

I rarely meet couples that agree on one of the most common questions of married people: How often are healthy couples having sex? I haven’t met one couple in 17 years of counseling that is in 100% agreement. read more

self

I let my Daughter Pick Out my Outfit

Check out this sweet video of Ashley and her adorable daughter, Addie Jo, as Ashley has her daughter pick out her outfit for a day of running errands and a playdate. What would your toddler pick out? read more

self

Friendships in Different Seasons

I often think back to times when my life and the lives of my closest friends were so alike. . These are some of the ways I stay connected with friends in different life stages. read more

self

Why Awkward is Good in Friendship

I pride myself in being able to see different perspectives, but in this case, it seemed so blatantly wrong! This is where awkward entered. I needed to make a decision, was I going to pretend this didn’t happen? That I didn’t care? Could I even pretend it away? read more

self

Moms: Find Out What You're Worth

It wasn’t any easy task, but Salary.com recently estimated what it would cost to replace a stay-at-home mom (SAHM). According to their calculations, stay-at-home moms are worth $118,905 a year, based on the 10 most time-consuming jobs they perform. read more

self

What if I want More Sex Than My Husband?

I get asked about low sex drive in men often in my practice. It’s probably not shocking to read that 40 to 50% of women struggle with low sexual desire, but did you know that 20 to 25% of men struggle as well? Here are some tips to help you move forward if this is an issue in your marriage. read more

self

4 Rules on Wearing Shorts

It’s summer! And oh so many reasons to put on those shorts and head outside! Here are a few tips on how to find the best short for you! read more

self

How to Ask for Help

There was a pride in not asking for help. I conquered the world on my own. But it is lonely there in the independent, conquer-the-world-on-my-own way of living. I am a big believer in being a strong and independent woman, but I have learned the value in needing our friends and family. read more

self

5 Ways to Fall Back in Love with Your Husband

Can love overcome any obstacle? I believe it can. In fact, I know it can, but it means making choices. read more

self

No “Hey! Hey!!” in the Va-Jay-Jay?

What questions do you have about marriage or sex? Because we want to answer them! We posted this answer to a popular but not-often-talked-about question about the female orgasm last year. read more

self

How to Wear a Necklace

Ashley is chatting about how to wear a necklace this month (with her special guest!). As a busy mom, a necklace can make us feel dressed-up and ready to go – no matter if it is to work, the store or the park. read more

self

Holy Coconut

After becoming a mom, I had to cut back on how much I spent in the beauty product department. Then I discovered the greatness of coconut oil. read more

self

Quick and Easy Mom Hairstyles

Who has time to blow dry their hair? Hello, Darling has compiled some quick (and cute!) hairstyles for moms with every hair type. read more

self

Waste More Paper

I received the sweetest handwritten note from a friend in the mail today. A letter. In my mailbox. Written on real paper. With real ink. And really messy penmanship. Who would have thought the simple combination of paper and ink could become such a treasure? read more

self

When I Feel I am Too Much

Guilt is my go-to emotion. It is like that perfect little black dress that goes with anything. I can dress it up, I can dress it down. It works for every occasion! Honestly, I don’t think it is just me struggling with guilt as the go-to emotion. read more

self

The Loaded Word

Success, now that is a loaded word. We are all told we want it and should go after it, with varying messages and results. Your parents want to see you have success in life, you want your kids to succeed. I was told to be better, have better, to succeed. There was never any plan of action. read more

self

Learning to be Brave

Being brave took an interesting turn since my children both started school last fall. It's the first time I am home alone in a decade, and I find that I am not the same woman I was ten years ago. When I was a new mother, I was more risk adverse. More concerned with image. read more

self

What If You Initiated Sex

Some women struggle to get past their good-girls-don’t-like-sex upbringings, while others feel intimidated by today’s over-sexualized culture. Regardless of where you are on the spectrum, initiating with dignity is possible. read more

self

Practice Makes Progress

In the corner of my den sits a hardly used sewing machine collecting dust. I thought it would be a great idea to learn how to sew. I would make my own curtains! I would hem my own pants! Surely, it would require time and patience to learn. It would also take a lot of practice. read more

self

Ways to Stop Fear from Crippling You

The only way to live bravely, to be who we are truly meant to be, is to face our fears instead of letting them cripple us. While you cannot always remove all your fears, you can always act in spite of them to become your best self. read more

self

Surrendering to Failure

Before I was a mom, I never failed at anything. Maybe I was just an exceptionally successful young adult. Perhaps I was lucky. Privileged -- of course. But looking back, I believe the absence of failure had more to do with avoiding risk than any particular giftedness. read more

self

You can Fake It OR You Can Make It

Motherhood is one of those enterprises that, due to its sheer intensity, created a major fork in my well-managed road. I knew, almost immediately, I had two choices: I could fake it. Or I could make it. The only way to survive is to invite someone into the real, beautiful mess of things. read more

self

Finding the Best T-shirt

Finding the perfect fit in a t-shirt can be challenging. Join Ashley as she compares a variety of stores t-shirt fits. read more

self

Courage in the Mundane

“Courtney,” I interrupted. “My life is so different from yours right now. Traveling by yourself for five days in Spain? It sounds crazy. I mean wonderful, but like I-can’t-even-wrap-my-head-around-it-crazy. Do you realize that most days I don’t even make it to the bathroom alone? ” read more

self

What If My Family Suffers as a Result

She swallows, trying to gulp down the fear and not let it overflow from her heart through her telling eyes. This fear that she doesn’t realize is common, somehow her family will suffer by her choice to do something that doesn’t center around them. read more

self

How to Make a Simple Dress

The basic idea I had was a simple t-shirt dress, where you cut part of a t-shirt and sew fabric to the bottom for a quick and easy dress. This is a great way to use t-shirt’s that have a stain or hole or shrunk a bit on the bottom half. read more

self

Understanding your Longings

At first glance wishes may only look like jealousy. And this begs the question, what are we supposed to do about jealousy? I see a few options. read more

self

How to Help a Friend through a Hard Time

When I was 26, I knew exactly how my life was supposed to go. I knew where my husband and I would live and how many children we would have. I had a blueprint for my life. We all have moments when life does not follow our plan. If you have a friend in trouble, here is how you can help. read more

self

How to Find Time to Read for Pleasure

The early months of motherhood left me too exhausted to keep my eyes open if I sat down. As my son has grown, I’ve been rediscovering the joy of reading whenever I find time. And finding time to read has become my specialty. These strategies may help add more reading to your life, too. read more

self

How to Fit in Exercise as a New Mom

I’ve been in your shoes. You can hardly find time to take a shower and shave your legs. How are you supposed to fit exercise into your day as a new mom? Although it definitely isn’t easy, there are some things you can do to find time to exercise. Here are a few simple tips to try this week! read more

self

Hats Off to Hats

We all know the expression “hats off,” meaning to salute someone or something. I want to take my hat off to the fact that hats can be fun and trendy, and most of all, hide the fact I didn’t have time to do my hair this morning! read more

self

How to Pack for the Hospital When Expecting

My husband, and I sat down and figured out what went well and what we can take away from our experience for next time. That conversation began with the contents of my hospital bag. So please allow me to share this nugget of wisdom with you -- I give you my master hospital bag packing list. read more

self

How to Feel Better-Than-Sexy After Pregnancy

The whole concept of “sexy” makes me wonder if who I am is enough, or if becoming enough is about being . . . sexier? I have no interest in bringing sexy back. Reducing lovemaking to tricks and tips seems shallow and hardly worth shaving my legs. read more

self

How to Hula Dance

Hula dance has been an integral part of my life and the opportunities it has presented has shaped much of who I am today. I find going back to my dance roots helps rejuvenate me, leaving me refreshed and ready to tackle more mommy duties of the day! Care to join me? read more

self

The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

Some days are just terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. Read Amanda’s retelling of a childhood classic with a mom twist. read more

self

Practical Steps to Understanding your Longings

I still have my own thirst for quiet space, especially now that I am a mommy. The house gets so loud sometimes, and I find myself sinking through the pressure of each day. What do we do with these yearnings keeping us up at night? How do we navigate the rocky waters of longing? read more

self

How to Find Time for You

Only 2 in 10 women in a recent survey said they were satisfied with the time they have for themselves. But just because a life lacking in self-care might be the norm for many American women, it doesn’t have to be the case for you. read more

self

6 Steps to Finding Your Colors

Color matters. Everywhere we look we see in color, and whether we are hanging out or going out on a coveted date night, the right colors make us pop. But how do you know what colors to pair with your skin tone? Here are six steps to finding your perfect colors. read more

self

On Working Toward Self-Awareness

I don’t know exactly how it happened. It is a memory that stands out from the rest. We were driving to church, and my older brother wouldn’t be quiet. And I remember my mom saying, “Clay, can you please be quiet? Look at your sister. See how quiet she can be? Be like her.” read more

self

You're Doing Just Fine

I try to catch some solo sleep, but hear my son stirring through the monitor. Instead of rushing to get him, I lie in bed and reach for the book-club novel on my nightstand, unread past the first two pages. Before I find my place, my son’s sweet babbles turn into shouts. read more

self

3 Simple Style Rules for Wearing Stripes

I'd love to share with you a few tricks to wearing stripes! Stripes are one of my very favorite things, and they are on trend this season. I have plenty of favorite things but wearing stripes always ranks pretty high up there style-wise. read more

self

The Day I Named What I Wanted

I didn’t have to do much introspection to know the deeper layer to my hesitation in the matter: I’ve always been afraid to say what I want in fear I might get rejected. I may know my desires, but as soon as I verbalize them to someone else, there’s the chance of public failure and embarrassmen read more

self

Why Others Need You to Embrace Authenticity

It’s often easier to paint on a smile and feign perfect contentment, but perfection doesn’t foster intimacy; instead it builds walls. I’m more interested in tearing down walls. read more

self

Why So Many Women Don’t Know What Their Favorite Color Is

I can still remember the first time my mother-in-law asked me how I liked my eggs. Easy over? Scrambled? Poached? I didn’t know. I just stared into my palms and mumbling something about it not mattering; I would have whatever everyone else was having. I was 32. read more

self

Favorite Friend Dates

Life, well, it is insanely busy, and if I am not careful, I can neglect my friendships, or I might wait around waiting for someone else to plan the fun. Here are my go-to favorite friend dates. read more

self

10 Tricks to Taming the Tummy

My second child was born on November 13, and I’ve been very aware of my tummy this time around. It has taken much longer to shrink after baby number two! Because tummy taming is an issue for so many women, below are some tips on how to tame that tummy. read more

self

How to Find Couple Friends

I knew I was grown-up and married when I started using the word “the” to talk about my friends. Finding a friend is difficult. Finding friends as a married couple is twice as hard. Finding friends as a couple with kids can seem near impossible. But it’s not. read more

self

How to Care for your Friends

Pull out your pretty new planner or your pristine family calendar and write reminders to do a “friend check” once every three or four months. Then begin your first friend check by reviewing the names in your address book and contact lists. Make note of any relationships you’d like to strengthe read more

self

How Playdates Helped Me Survive the Early Years

I was in bed, trying to find a reason to get up. My husband had been gone for seven months on a military deployment, and I was alone with our three young children. An empty day stretched before me, until I remembered - we have a play date this morning! Suddenly the whole day seemed brighter. read more

self

On Making Mom Friends

During those early years with children, making and maintaining friendships with other moms can be hard. You may feel you just don’t have time, but you need these friendships now more than ever. read more

self

Repurposing Old Clothes

I like to use the week between Christmas and New Year’s to clean my closet of all the clothes that don’t fit or I don’t like. Sometimes there are pieces I still love, but they look worn or fit a little strange. Here is how I have made over some great clothing pieces without breaking the bank. read more

self

To Those Who Diet After Christmas

There’s no doubt, Christmas hurts the waistline. For a former anorexic, the choices are overwhelming. I’m far from those eating disorder days, yet not as far as I thought. I’ve got a husband who loves my curves, yet when the pants grow snug, I feel less-than. read more

self

How to Pick Leggings

When you find the right pair of leggings, they can be your best friend. Leggings are a very versatile piece. Today I’m showing you three ways to pair leggings with what you have in your closet! read more

self

11 Great Tips to Great Photos of Your Children (And You!)

One day you are holding them in your arms, and the next day they are running at full speed away from you in the grocery store parking lot as you are trying to carry their sibling and juggle all the groceries! Here are 11 great tips to capture those fleeting moments read more

self

5 Steps to Discover Your Personal Style

Dressing can feel daunting at times. If you are staring into your closet and thinking you have nothing to wear, check out these five steps to help you discover your personal style. read more

self

Be a Friend, Bravely

Your husband and kids cannot meet all of your relationship needs – they weren’t designed to. We were created to live in community. We all need girlfriends, and they need us. read more

self

Finding Our Brave

We all have our own unique brave stories. Your brave and my brave will look differently, but each of our courageous stories have one common thread – it all starts in our fear. Bravery is born out of our response to fear. We cannot have a brave until we have a fear. read more

self

Follow your Dreams, Bravely

Everyone has dreams. Not everyone knows what they are. Give yourself permission to dream, and give your dreams definition enough to pursue them. read more

self

How To Look Less Tired

How-to freshen up the face with four products -- for those times when our face betrays just how long the day has been and how little sleep we've gotten recently. read more

self

Swiss Cheese Moms, Part One

Moms and Codependency. “We’re all born Swiss cheese — full of holes — needs that are starving to be met,” If we’re parented well and life is relatively trauma-free, then we grow up with a strong sense of identity. If childhood needs aren’t met, codependency may become the lifelong surv read more

self

7 Tips for Today's Modern Woman

There are a few universal truths I’ve learned over my years on this planet: My dryer will devour at least one sock in every load of laundry, the barista at Starbucks will forget the “e” on the end of my name on my latte cup, and if I plan something special for dinner, my husband will eat one o read more

self

Self-Care

Every woman is made up of four parts (intellectual, spiritual, emotional, physical) and when one is out of balance—it can throw the whole system out of sync. read more

self

Six Tips to Feeling Beautiful Everyday

I always thought I would achieve the perfect weight that would take away all the bad feelings inside of me and awaken the confidence I knew I had. I longed to feel beautiful, not just on the special occasion but every day. read more

self

Beauty on a Budget

I’ve struggled with how much time, money and energy is appropriate for me to spend on my appearance. Here are some of the ways I save my dollars while looking my best, so I can spend my money on things I value most. read more

self

Simple DIY Spa Day

Moms are busy caring for others. Schedule in a little DIY home spa retreat and feel rejuvenated. read more

self

5 Exercises To Do With Your Toddler

We all have great intentions of exercising, but it is tough to find the time! Sometimes the best thing is to involve your kids in your workout. read more

self

10 Sexy Gift Ideas for Him

Ten fun and sexy gift ideas for your husband to put spark back into the dog days of summer. read more

self

6 Things Never to Say to Your Spouse

Sometimes we can mean the nicest thing, but our wording or tone of voice can leave our spouse feeling upset or misunderstood. Check out these six tips on how to say something in a more positive light! read more

self

6 Simple Ways to Seduce Your Husband with Modern-day Bed-iquette

Men and women think about sex differently. It may feel like a mystery how to awaken the desires (or opportunities) when there are so many distractions in our lives. Here are six simple ways to seduce your husband. read more

self

Behind Closed Doors: A journey through marriage & sexual addiction

By the end of their first year of marriage, he had met three different women from the Internet, and was sexually addicted. She was caught in a never-ending mind game trying to figure out what was wrong with her. Then, it all fell apart. read more

self

The Be Brave 2014 Kissing Challenge

There’s nothing like a good kiss, and yet some married couples choose to opt out. These couples may swap a quick before-ya-go or welcome-home-but-get-out-of-my-way-because-I’m-busy kiss, but beyond that, kissing has become a lost art. Where did all the kisses go!?!! read more

self

Seasons of Marriage

We are mid-point in the summer season, and I really have been missing my husband. He has been home, but I still miss him. We have been enormously kid-focused and family-focused for the summer months. Therefore, I miss him. read more

self

11 Things to Improve Life Right Now

Every mom needs a place to care for herself. Here are 11 ways to start new habits! read more

self

25 Profound Habits of Real-Life Happy Couples

They say it’s the small things – both in life and in love. It’s the small personal things that say, “I am thinking about you.” It’s the little on-going gestures that say, “You and me – we’re in it together.” And sometimes, it’s the tiniest gesture that says, “I know you.” read more

self

Tips For Making Dirty Hair Appear Clean

For those days when you don’t get a shower (or for the string of them in a row), we have you covered. Here’s a little video with tips for making dirty hair appear clean. read more

self

Learn to Put Yourself First

I regularly hear “I don’t have time to work out,” “I can’t get up early to exercise—I’m up too late cleaning up after the kids and dealing with the house,” or “I don’t have time to grocery shop and cook—that’s why we eat out all of the time.” read more

self

SOS for PMS

If you struggle with premenstrual syndrome (PMS) and need a life preserver to stay afloat, you’re not alone. The struggle can be especially disturbing for moms, because what affects you also affects your family. read more

self

Easy Updos

No one wants frumpy hair. No one. Jackie is back with Libby Antonson from The Parlour Highlands in Denver, Colorado for the first in a series of easy updo ideas. read more

self

Did StyleYou.com Win Us Over?

Hello, darling! Rachel took a giant risk to be the guinea pig and try out StyleYou.com. She filled out her style preferences online, received a cute box in the mail and tried on outfits created just for her. (See, it was a huge sacrifice on her part.) read more

self

Sugar Hand Scrub

Summer is here! And what better way to celebrate than by pampering your hands with a sweet-smelling sugar hand scrub. All you need is sugar and dish soap! read more

self

7 Health Benefits of Motherhood

It might be hard to imagine that being a mom generally makes you healthier (isn't 8 hours of sleep a night required to be healthy?), but this list shows how motherhood is good for you! read more

self

Got Guilt?

The infamous guilt trip; are you packed? Of course you are, along with all the baggage. Guilt baggage comes standard in motherhood, with a wide assortment of shades and sizes. read more

self

Home-Made Manicure

Want the look of pampered nails, but just don’t have the time or money to get them done professionally? Show off your hands this summer with a manicure that doesn't cost a fortune! read more