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Priceless

by Anne-Renee Gumley

honestly

June 16, 2014

Priceless

I just took inventory of my bathroom drawer. It is filled with all sorts of short-term solutions for my visible long-term problems: 

Eye cream: for those puffy, tired mama eyes
Mascara: to elongate even the shortest eyelashes
Toner: to cleanse and hydrate my dry, crackly lizard skin
Self-tanner: a sure sign that I live in a cold weather state
Tweezers: for pruning my bushy, rebellious brows
Whitening paste: to achieve that toothy Hollywood glow
Smoothing serum: to make my naturally frizzy hair somewhat less Einstein-ish
Advanced care body lotion: for doughy, dimpled, post-baby skin
And a serious arsenal of makeup: to cover up everything some board of beauty products deems a “blemish” or problem area

All this ladylike organizing brings me to one conclusion: without all this stuff, I’m a mess! It’s as if the world is shouting at me from every direction, “You’re not good enough!”

The grocery store line helps to feed this inadequacy. Style and celebrity magazines use their glossy pages to dictate trends to the masses, as if we’re somehow confused on what we actually like to wear. (Really? I‘m supposed to enjoy taking care of my family in high heel leather booties and silk harem pants?) House magazines beckon the viewer to do yet another total room make-over, feeding discontent toward the four walls you call home. Parenting magazines are even better, showing pictures of popsicle holding cuties while proclaiming how to discipline (or not discipline, as the case may be), weaving fantasies of family weekends in the Hamptons and implying that well-adjusted mothers use only certain exclusive lines of women’s and children’s products. “Improve yourself.” “Discover your true you.” “Buy this and you and your family will be thrilled with the results.” The guilt builds as you go through the line. I’m not using this or doing that. I didn’t know the latest “must have” is metallic eye shadow and organic cotton pajamas. I’m so out of touch!

Every once in awhile, when I’m feeling brave enough to face the world without my armor of beauty supplies, I don my favorite ripped jeans, soft lifeless t-shirt, hat and flip-flops and enjoy going against the flow of materialism. Deep inside I know that living a life that is pleasing to the Lord should be number one in importance. He made me the way I am for a reason (unbeknownst to me). Scripture says I’m made in the image of God. I am “fearfully and wonderfully made,” as Psalm 139 declares. So if that’s true, why in the world am I trying to cover up his creation? Why do I think I have to be someone I’m not? And more importantly, what happened to focusing on the beauty within, simply living life for his glory?

So what if these tired mama eyes have laugh wrinkles? And yes, that is a grey hair peeking out of the brown. It’s ok. I hear it can be a real crown of honor, in fact. It’s time to rejoice in and embrace who God made me to be. Thankfully, I know that at the end of the day my worth is more than the contents of a bathroom drawer. I’m one of a kind. I am priceless!


 

Anne-Renee is a full-time mom, works/plays part-time at her family's party store where she does all the ordering, and is an aspiring writer. She is mom to Kailee (7) and Jamison (5) who keep her laughing. She's been involved in a MOPS group since Kailee was a baby and has functioned as a Discussion Group Leader, Discussion Group Team Leader and Co-coordinator.


 

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Share with us how you find balance between focusing on the beauty within, and your physical beauty.

 

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Hey ladies - It's Anne-Renee Gumley (writer of this article). So encouraged to see this post re-surface on the MOPS blog. I am love-love-loving reading through your excellent feedback and heart reflections! Writing "Priceless" was one of the pieces that inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and start co-hosting a blog and podcast just for moms. Would love for you to check it out: www.TheMasterpieceMom.com Let me know if you have any great topic ideas. Thanks ladies! May the Lord bless you as you err boldly in your mothering journey!!!

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I try very hard to remind myself that real true beauty is so much more then skin deep. It's the kind of beauty that lives inside each and every women and it's not something we can find in a magazine or buy in a store. It's the gift of our unique personalities that God has given us. Don't get me wrong of course I have days where I look in the mirror and I don't feel beautiful but I do I really do try very hard to remind myself to let my inner beauty shine through and that that's what matters not the outside appearance.

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Yes, the daily reminder that our inner beauty is the most important. It's easy to get caught up in outer looks, but letting our inner beauty shine through is what is most important! Thanks!

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Your welcome.

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My days go better if I start them off by spending time in the word or in prayer. On days where I'm rushed or don't take the time, I find that those tend to be "struggle" type days, whether with my own attitude or with my toddler. I also find that on days where I take the time to get ready (do hair/makeup), I tend to be more productive and positive. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy lounging around, too, but I definitely feel better if I get ready. I struggled with self-esteem issues and body-image issues as a kid/teen and I don't want my daughter to go through that. I tell her every single day that she is beautiful and that God loves her exactly as she is. I have to remind myself of that, too. I'm a beautiful mess and God loves me as I am, where I'm at, etc.

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Shari, I think I'm on the same page as you. The days that I take a few minutes to put myself together - an outfit, SOMETHING with my hair, my normal makeup basics - those are the days that I seem to feel prepared for the day. (And a little time in prayer helps, too! :)) I don't want to pass on to little looking eyes that I HAVE to put on make-up for others, but just that taking the time to get ready helps me feel prepared for the day. If you have good words that you use for that, do share!

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I am all for days of no makeup and hair in a ponytail. I want to make sure my daughters understand that it isnt about what others see on the outside but what God sees on the inside.

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Amber, I like your perspective of balance - have days where appearance isn't what matters. Love it.

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Feeding my soul with things that are truly beautiful.

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Laura, I want to know more about what those things might be. :)

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Spending time with uplifting genuine friends always helps emphasize the beauty within.

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Elizabeth, that's an amazing solution... spend time with people who truly know and appreciate me to give me a little bit of perspective.

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I find that I forget to take care of the outside most of the time. My husband wishes I'd wear makeup more, only because he likes that it accents me. So I try to do both - go natural and gussied up evenly, to show my girls that the outside can be anything, as long as the heart is in the right place.

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Leah, I like your balance. A little bit of both. :)

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I try not to worry about my physical appearance too much... But I have always had a husband and family that love me the way I am! I am always trying to work on my inner self... Reading God's word daily helps with that!

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Jessalyn, your confidence is inspiring. I find myself worrying about my appearance much more than I'd ever like to admit.

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Accepting my physical flaws is like turning off a switch controlled by Satan. That is one of his favorite ways to attack women. I choose to love what God has given me and any circumstances that may come.

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I've been going without serious makeup for the last couple months out of conviction for what my little girls (4&6) ask about it. They want to use it like me, but I know I'm already setting them up for disappointment in how they look without it in the future. We are beautiful from the inside out.

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Denise, way to take an active step in setting an example for your kids. Make-up is all fine and good, but it's so hard to teach an appropriate appreciate of it to little watching eyes!

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A wonderful reminder after catching sight of a few more developing lines this week.

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Kristen, they seem to sneak up on us, don't they? :)

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