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Moms Night Out – Thoughts from the Screenwriter

by Andrea Nasfell

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August 28, 2014

Mom's Night-Out

I’ve been thinking a lot about the writer’s voice lately. When agents or producers in Hollywood say they are looking for a writer with “a voice,” what are they asking for? 

What is a voice for, anyway? To enable you to speak, of course. Because you have something to say.  

I think audiences are hungry for filmmakers who have something to say. I don’t mean they want movies that bludgeon them with a big message, be it religious or political. Nobody wants to be bludgeoned by a movie, they want to be entertained. The problem is that the movie still has a voice – it still speaks something – whether it’s intended to or not.

But sometimes the only thing a film says is, “Look at how I pushed the envelope,” or “Look at how many buildings we can demolish with visual effects” or “Look at how cool/creepy/sexy/tough we are.” Notice how all of those movies are essentially saying “Look at ME.” Those movies are about the filmmakers, not the audience.

When Kevin Downes and the Erwin Brothers acquired Moms’ Night Out, they sat me down and told me about Mandi, Beth and Catherine – their wives.  All three of their families had two preschool or younger children, they saw the joys and struggles, and they wanted to make Moms’ Night Out to encourage them. These filmmaker dads had a very specific thing to say to a very specific audience. 

When I first wrote the script, I was a stressed out mom of young children too, and I was looking around at my friends and thinking how hard we all work to appear that we’ve got it all together. And we’d all have less stress if we could throw off that burden. The story was for them because I loved them. I was saying, “Solidarity, sister. None of us are perfect, but that’s okay. We are in this together.” 

What Jon came in and added was a voice from his side of the story – the words he wanted his wife to know. “Actually, you are perfect, just the way you are, and we love you for everything you do.” I think that love comes through in every moment of the movie. 

So— if you are a writer, do you know whom your story is for? Do you love them? What do you want to them to know? 

If you thought Moms’ Night Out was about bitter moms gone wild, or incompetent dads ruining everything, you’ve got it all wrong. This movie is about love and encouragement, pure and simple. From our hearts to yours. 


 

This piece was originally published on the Mom’s Night Out blog. Used with permission by Mom’s Night Out.


 

Andrea Nasfell is an award-winning screenwriter whose most recently produced film is the family comedy MOMS’ NIGHT OUT directed by the Erwin Brothers for Sony AFFIRM/Provident Films. She is a graduate of Asbury University and is currently pursuing an MFA in Creative Writing from Spalding University.


 





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If you were to write a book or a screenplay, what would you want to tell your audience?

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I'd want to teach young women to trust their gut. I'd have had a lot less regrets if I had only trusted my gut!

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That's a good one, it's easy to talk yourself out of following your gut.Thanks!

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I'd like to write how God turned my tragic life into something beautiful.

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Sounds like a beautiful story, Cynthia!

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It is important to be in the moment - I think it's way too easy to get distracted these days and miss out on living your life!

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Yes, great reminder! Thanks!

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Hang in there! We all feel like we're losing it some days.

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Sarah, this is what we all need to be reminded of! Thanks!

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That consistently offering and asking for forgiveness is the only way to keep a relationship intact (marriage, friends, family, etc...)

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Beauty and joy in life can be found no matter our circumstances if we take time to thank God and receive his redeeming gift.

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I'd write of the overwhelming love a parent feels towards their child at first sight. Is that emotion is possible to put into words??!!

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I can not for the life of me figure out how to enter this contest!! Every time I hit the enter to win button it takes me to a "widget-raffle" page that has nothin to do with the contest!! Help!

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Amy, were you able to enter? It should just ask you to either like our facebook page or comment on the blog, then enter you into the drawing. I hope you were able to figure it out!

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I would share how important communication is between husbands and so Ed, moms and kids, bosses and employees, etc. And then tie in forgiveness and seeing the other persons point of view.

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I'd want to share a story that is full of joy and hope.

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A message about being intentional about loving others especially those closest to us, showing God's love and not getting bogged down in the stuff that really doesn't matter.

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Trials of pain can not seem pleasant at the time but can help us lean more on the Lord as we find strength for our tomorrows to persevere forward in His name. I would probably share many stories from my life in how God has brought me through times of trial to times of joy and it would be my prayer that it would encourage others going through difficult times to turn to Him in prayer and give everything over to Him knowing He will give us strength for each new day!

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Life can pass too quickly, so enjoy every moment especially with your little ones.

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I would share that though we don't always see God working, when we use hindsight everything makes sense in His grace! I would share my own story through a fictional character in the hopes that I could help 1 person find hope!

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I would want it to be about truly living when we sometimes feel like we are just surviving. It's important to keep our focus on God and what He is asking of us and not letting the world tell us what we should be doing.

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I would want to tell my audience that God is faithful and bigger than we know.

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My husband's family. Yeah it's that interesting.

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It's great to have a movie to look forward to seeing that is positive and encouraging.

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That we have been specifically designed to be the mother of our children and we have a purpose and responsibility in that. Don't lose sight of that in the midst of the stressors of day to day life.

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I would want to leave them with a message of hope - that in life, you are never alone!

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That life is not about THIS world...so be free to let the non-stop activities go amd focus on the essentials.

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Perhaps the story of parents who struggle to rekindle the romance of their marriage after having kids and how they strive to maintain that marital bond and stick together through thick and thin. But of course letting God be the center of each day.

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I would say to slow down - it is something I struggle with every day - to find a moment every day when God shows me his love for me through the "mundane." If we slow down, we can enjoy each other more, and enjoy creation more too!

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As well as Hollywood makes romance unfold into a story we each long to own, women need to know that life's truest adventure occurs when they rest easy & ask God to write their story. He is a romantic, his resources are without limitation, and he knows each woman intimately to best pair her with a lifelong mate. And He has the BEST sense of humor to carry you along the journey!

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I would say Quit relying on your own power to do all of the things you feel like you should be doing, Instead Fall on God, seek God, Love God, Know God, And his Spirit will accomplish what he wants you to do.

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I would want to be funny in whatever story I told - to prove that clean humor is just as funny as "pushing the envelope." That's one of the things I really enjoyed about Moms' Night Out!

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God loves you just the way you are!

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I would remind everyone at the end of the day the God that we serve is good, faithful and still God. His amazing Grace covers a multitude of parental failings

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I would want them to live each day as though it were their last. To savor each memory, each flavor, every hug, because life goes by so quickly.

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I would want to tell them that they are loved, no matter what!

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Life is full of unexpected things. And how you handle them is what makes you a better person.

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So true, I bet that would make me cry!

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I missed seeing this movie with my own MOPS group when they went. I would love to share a moms night with some of my mommy friends!

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Laura, keep checking back on the blog! We have a few more DVDs we will be giving out.

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I would want them to know that "happily ever after" doesn't have to be perfect. Most of the time perfections is overrated not to mention never going to happen.

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So true, I would definitely watch that!

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I would want to somehow in the film show how great and important MOPS is for all moms.

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That would be awesome! Thanks!

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I would probably write a book based on my hilarious 3 little boys!

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Cute and funny little boys - a sure crowd pleaser!

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Life in my crazy world!

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Ha! It sounds like it might be a slap-stick comedy.

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I would tell the story of how me and my hubby met!

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I'll bet it's a cute one, Megan. :)

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My husband saw this movie with me and we both thought it had a great message!

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I wondered if it was "husband material." I'll ask mine to watch it with me, too.

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He was worried they'd make the husbands all look like idiots, but we agreed they did a good job of making the husbands and wives both look silly.

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I would want to tell my audience that they are worthwhile, they are important!

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We all benefit from hearing that - and you can't hear it too many times!

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I would share my testimony! I haven't had a chance to see this yet, I can't wait for the DVD!

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Shauna I challenge you to be brave and film your own testimony or give your testimony at MOPS, if you are in a group.

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This movie didn't come to a theater in our area. Our MOPS group will be having our own Mom's Night Out to watch the movie this fall. So excited!!

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I wish I was there to do that with you - fun!!

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Went to this in theater and I can't wait to get the movie so that I can show it to a bunch of friends. It really helped me to remember how special my family is.

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Reading all of these comments I want to see it even more! Gotta get me a copy.

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I would want to say that sticking it out through the rough patches of marriage is so worth it!

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This would be a great film - not all movies have to be catastrophic in theme, simply a married couple going through tough times like we all do and still ending up together would be wonderful. I agree, Christi.

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Jesus saves! No matter the matters of life, there is hope.

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HOPE. If everything else is washed away, hope is what matters the most.

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I would like to make sure whatever I say it in a funny way. Life without laughter is just too sad.

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Thumbs up! And I don't think we get a chance to laugh often enough in this life.

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No one is alone. God is always by your side!

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This is a universal theme for everyone. Love it!

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I would write that life throws some pretty big curves, and that you have to work at being yourself through the pain.

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Agreed - and whether or not we have a scripted happy ending, we always have hope.

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You are the BEST mom for YOUR kids! What works for you may not work for others, and vice versa...and that's OK!

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The first time someone told me that - the notion that I am the very best mom for my children and that my children are mine for a purpose - it was life changing. We can't hear that enough.

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What a beautiful mess my life is, and how much I love it that way

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Kudos to you, Christie, for embracing the mess!!

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Be open and honest, we are all broken and in need of The Savior.

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Hope and light in the brokenness - redemption - is a theme that touches us all.

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What works for some, may not work for others. Support each other as we find what works best for each unique family. And lean not on your own understanding...trust in God.

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This is a recurring theme here - there is no single way to raise your family, and lean on God.

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Not Every Child is the Same

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Tell me about it! I've got two, and they are very different from each other!

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What we call "mental illness" is really a physical disease, an imbalance of chemicals in the brain. #EndtheStigma

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I would love to see more coverage of this topic for moms. Depression, and particularly Post Partum Depression. Understanding the physicality behind these depression and anxiety has been a lifesaver for me, and in the midst of PPD or depression you don't always know what to ask for and you don't always know you need help.

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Take time to listen and play - time goes by so fast!!

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PLAY! This is such an important theme.

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Enjoy each moment, in the moment!

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Good reminder, Lachelle. I know I can be guilty of waiting until _____ to just relax and enjoy myself.

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Life is crazy, laugh more and it will provide relief.

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I love that moment when I can shake my head and say, "I can't fix this. I'm just gonna have to laugh it off and keep on trucking."

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Trust in God, He will never fail you.

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Psalms 56:3 (KJV) What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.

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You are NOT alone :)

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That's a positive message for everyone to hear.

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I would want my audience to know its okay to laugh at yourself!!

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It lightens the mood when we can quit taking this motherhood thing so seriously, right?

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I'd want to convey the message that every one is important. Every. Single. One. That this life is more than politics, petty differences, and fear/anger. It is about people, beautiful, worthy people.

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I really enjoy films that put a microscope on a bunch of people and let you inside their singlular world. A film like this about a bunch of different mothers could be cool.

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I'd write about being a mom and military spouse

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Molly - I agree this is a biggie. There are lots of films about past war efforts that give a perspective of "vintage" women during wartime, but I don't know of a film that talks about what it is like every day to be the wife of a military spouse. My sis is a USAF wife with three kiddos - one with special needs - and I know how tough it is for her when her husband is working long hours or gone altogether on a deployment. And the whole PCS thing... That deserves a movie all by itself!

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Be intentional in what you do!

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It's interesting the difference having a PURPOSE makes in my mothering. :)

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I'm not sure what I'd say! I'm a reader & a watcher more than a speaker. I guess it would have to be some sort of 'how to' craft thing - making your own kid dresses, blankets, dolls. Save money while making memories is a big part of my life right now!

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Keisha it sounds like you should start a blog or post to YouTube with your money saving ideas for busy moms.

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I'm so excited to see this movie as soon as the DVD comes out!! A trip to the movies is rare for me now having 3 preschoolers. I love that there is finally a fun movie out adressing the everyday struggles and joys of motherhood. I want other moms to know that they're not alone and that they are loved by our great creator! We are in this together, and moms should be there for one another!!

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In my dream world, a free babysitter would arrive at 6pm on Friday evenings and my husband would head to dinner and a movie together. Every. Single. Week. I love going to the movies! But alas - I, too, must wait for the DVD for most films. :)

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Our generation is so focused on perfection and upping one another hat we often lose the focus of what God really wants from us...we need to relax and support one another in a genuine way and focus on what's best for our families not what the world says we need to compete with our sisters over!

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Agreed, Erin. All for one and one for all!

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A story of how mothers need to seek God's truths & not the world's standards

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John 8:32 (KJV) And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

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That you're doing the best job you can with what God has given you...you're perfect for your kids.

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Such an important message. I don't think we can hear that too often as moms.

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The fruit of your actions, methods and plans is what you're after. Sometimes the individual moments don't look like much, but they add up. I'd want to share a message of God's love being present in the small daily tasks with an ending showing how His hand was in our small moments and the big picture.

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What an encouragement that would be to every mother in the mix of daily living with small children.

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A story of hope in marriage & mothering.... With God's truth. :)

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To live without HOPE is to cease to live. - Fyodor Dostoevsky

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I would want the audience to know that we are all created unique by God! No one person is better than the other, and there is no "perfect" person, marriage, family, child, etc.

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A movie all about IMPERFECTION sounds like my cup of tea, Kitzya!

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I've always loved the quote "bloom where God plants you". Make the most out of the season, the situation and the stage if life you are in. Look at life as an adventure in which to explore and learn along the way, rather than a challenge to overcome and perfect.

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Elisa, this is a great quote. I'm working on that myself in a new town with a ton of changes and challenges. Thank you for a positive reminder that life is NOT a challenge to overcome, but an opportunity to bloom where I am planted. I needed that.

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I loved the movie. I left encouraged to enjoy these long days with my little one.

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It's an endless search for balance, isn't it, Sara? The need to get-it-all-done, but still manage to enjoy the little people we so wanted to bring into our lives. I'm so glad this film was an encouragement in that department.

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How much you need to take care of yourself as a mom! Making sure you are your best.

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A movie that pointed out the need for moms to practice regular self care doesn't sound like a Hollywood Blockbuster, but it sure sounds NECESSARY!

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If I was a book or screenplay writer, I would tell my audience that marriage, parenting, and life is an adventure. Happily ever after is not the end, is the beginning of the adventure. Life is not perfect, you just have to live, and take it one day at a time. Enjoy the ride, you never know when you ll hit the highs or hit the lows, you just have to go with it and not be afraid to get on. -Esmeralda Ellis, mother of 2 beautiful girls.

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Well said, Esmeralda.

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The joys and struggles of motherhood! Being a mom is such a blessing and Each of us moms has such a unique way of parenting, instead of competing we should celebrate the differences.

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Kala - that's a great idea. I think a movie about moms who are frenemies in competition but realize that is a waste of time and become true friends would be awesome! I'd watch it.

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Our group is planning a moms night in to watch Moms Night Out once it come out on DVD. This would be perfect!!! :)

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Oh that sounds fun!! I should see if a MOPS group in my new town is planning that - I'm there!!

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I'd write about marriage. I'd show the audience ways to have a peaceful, practical & fun marriage while raising kids.

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Peaceful + Practical + Fun in the marriage department - I think these are three things we all want after kids. :)

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Motherhood is tough, you have to be able to laugh about things, and yourself. Being a mom of two boys is constant adventure

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I have a girl and a boy and I can only imagine the unique challenges of Boy World x 2 are quite the adventure, Alex.

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Loved this movie!

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So glad you enjoyed it - I need to make a couple of gal pals in my new hometown so I can make it a girls night in.

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I would write about motherhood and keeping your relationship with my hubby! Although there have been epic fails in both of those areas but funny fails!

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If a movie could encapsulate that notion in a funny way and let you walk away with practical tips, that film should win an Oscar!

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Great movie! I would want the audience to know they are loved

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That is a pretty impressive accomplishment when a movie can leave you feeling well loved. And I think that is exactly what moms - who give so much love away - really need.

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If I could write a book, I would write it on nursing your baby while pregnant. I couldn't find a lot of help with this when I unexpectedly got pregnant when my first was 3 months old. I would love t o share my experience to help others who may feel helpless in similar situations.

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I've had a couple of friends in that situation, and I would say that is much needed advice, Brittany.

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I would want to share that nobody is perfect. We all have our faults.

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I love movies that say "nobody is perfect." They make me feel so much better about my abnormal normal.

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I would tell them that it is okay to take the hurts and failures of your past and share them in such a way that others will see God's love and mercy in your life. That is a beautiful thing to pass along. We all need to hear your testimony!

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That is a beautiful message. :)

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Loved the movie!

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I can't wait to see it myself, Jessica!

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