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Cue the Tears

by Mandy

honestly

September 2, 2013

Cue the Tears

I went to back-to-school night last night and balled my eyes out in the car as I drove home. It was an ugly cry too. I know because I caught a glimpse of myself in the rear view mirror, which of course made me cry even harder. What is it about watching yourself cry that makes you cry more?

As I parked at the curb in front of my house I pulled myself together because I didn’t want my whole family to witness the mascara running down my cheeks. Then I sat in the car and had a come to Jesus moment with myself. It was a moment of honesty that I knew I had to deal with.

Every once in a while over the past few months I have felt lonely. Gut-wrenchingly lonely.

Seven months ago we made a big move. We packed up three kids, a dog and a U-haul and drove through 4 states to live an adventure. We waved goodbye to best-friends and best-family and hugged each other knowing  that adventures are good for the soul. And all of this has been good and soul-nourishing until last night, when I walked into back to school night and realized that I knew no one. No friends to make idle conversation with, no one to sit next to, no friends to de-brief with about what we thought about the teachers and my beloved friend Jen who has a kindred heart and knows my secrets is 1500 miles away.

Cue the tears in the car.

What I realized is that I have been so wrapped up in caring for the physical and emotional needs of my little tribe that I have forgotten to care for myself.  And it became glaringly obvious to me that having girlfriends was my most pressing need.

See, I am firm believer that we need each other, we women.

We need our girl friends to be a sacred circle of support.  Trusted friends who enjoy your flaws and who love your kids as much as their own. We all have so many worries as moms, and too often we are left on our own without the benefit of a supportive community. And that is never good. We need one another to say, “me too,” “I totally relate” and “don’t stress so much about potty training.”

We  moms have big purpose.

We are a tribe of sage women who are using hope and fruit snacks to move mountains.

Our bodies incubate new heart beats and we birth life into the world with our breath.

We are mothering the motherless; caring for each other and drawing wide the circle of our family.

 We are feeding bodies and clothing souls.

We are the tradition makers and the story keepers.

Our chant is love.

You and me and the mom at the park that we don’t know yet, we are all companions on this journey.  We are the sisters who because of place and time have the opportunity to raise the world together.

 I am so grateful to be in the trenches alongside you, to share a good cry, pick up your kids from school or sit and be quiet when there are no words.

I am excited to build a new circle of friends to journey with and I plan on being the one to jump in, take a risk and be vulnerable enough to start a conversation with someone who looks like they have it all together but may feel like I do, like they need a friend.

How about you?

Do you need a community of friends, soul-sisters to journey alongside of on this beautiful-hard path of mothering? I know a great community of women who would love for you to join us.

 

Related topics: Relationships, Friendship

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This exactly has been my feeling since four years ago when my little princess became part of our lives and made all of them change totally. Since then, I've been looking for a group as MOPS but unfortunately there are none in Mexico City. So, I decided I needed to attend to this year's MOMCon and God allowed me to make a fantastic trip where I had the opportunity to meet with beautiful ladies from the International team. Now I'm back in Mexico with great ideas and support to start a MOPS group in the area where I live....I'm so excited!

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Thank you so much for this insight - my family and I just did a 5,000 mile and 4 time zone move this summer and now that we've finally moved into our house and our belongings have arrived (after 2 months of living in a temporary place), I no longer have the excuse of "I'm waiting to get settled in" anymore. And maybe that's why I signed up for MOPS. As a fairly new parent and stay at home mom, I feel like I'm just starting to seek out others who divide their productivity between naps. I'm not expecting MOPS to solve all the problems of the universe, but it seems like a pretty good place to start...

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I think I just found the perfect thing to share at our first MOPS meeting of the year... well our first MOPS meeting ever for this brand new group. Thank you for your powerful words!

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This topic story helped me so much. Thank You. It is always good to know that in times we are not the only ones that go through these kind of things. Our minds at the times of hardships always try to bog us down into thinking we are alone. We too, this month, will be a year ago, I had to face some reality key points. We moved, picked up (again) and had to leave all those people and friends that we had made only almost five years before that, had to start all over getting to know them. Moving back having to face everything and everyone we left behind from our past, it still isn't easy. It isn't easy loving people that don't love you back or totally despise your guts, Wasn't looking forward to coming back to this negative place. A move to anywhere isn't easy when you have to pack your home, your kids, and your animals to start all over. We are still trying to keep our heads high and continuing to search for the positive things out of this. I have no idea how people live without Christ.

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